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Debs Lyon's avatar

I'm so sorry for what you went through. And thank you for writing about it so openly. I understand all too well the shame around not feeling attraction and not wanting sex. I wish the language I have now had been available to me when I was younger - I felt so alone in my lack of desire; but finding the asexual spectrum community in recent years has been such a welcome releif.

Thank you again for writing and sharing this; I'm incredibly grateful 💜

Nessie's avatar

Thank you sharing this 🙏 spot on.

“…the idea that to be a REAL adult (healthy, whole, loved) you must want sex.” — I relate to this and also I’ve experienced this same pattern being disabled and not being able to work much. The same idea that if you don’t have a job then you’re not a REAL adult… 🙄🥴

Living beyond Productivity's avatar

"Tell me more about it." Really should have been the only thing anyone should have asked.

Thank you for sharing your story and linking it to the systemic issues!

Ella M.'s avatar

As a psychiatry survivor (well, still working on it 😑) whose libido was taken from me by the SSRI I was started on at age 16, I find this equally HORRIFYING...